I met with a client yesterday and her best friend was there, as she needed to come up and help her son, so, she drove up from Southern Oregon, and decided to hang with her friend at the same time. This friend was wise beyond her years and because of it, in that hour we talked, I gained a friend, and wisdom, that will propel me to new levels in life and business.
This wisdom she bestowed on me showed me that what I'm doing right today, toward others and my family, will repay itself 10 times over in the future. I normally don't talk about how I raise my family, but there was something about her that just made me want to talk to her. I believe people come in to our lives for a reason and I think she came in to my life to reassure me that I'm doing just fine!
But, at the same time, she also gave me the knowledge that the only thing holding me back in life and business is me. She said, all of us have fear, but how we look at that fear determines if we succeed in life or not. She gave me the word and broke it down for me and that I plan to put on my office wall. What was the word and the breakdown?
F = False
E = Evidence
A = Appearing
R = Real
It made sense, what holds us back more than anything? FEAR! What is the worst that can happen? It is always worse in our mind, than it ever could or would be in reality. Is a person I call on the phone really going to come down to my office and yell at me for calling them? NO, they will at worst, just say please don't call me again. If I door knock, is that person going to throw a phone at me? Well, maybe if I door knock on Russell Crowe's front door. These fears hold me back from success, when I should just do what I fear most and realize that is never as bad as I imagine.
The weird part is we all criticize others for their fears of things such as public speaking, spiders, snakes or cold calling. Whatever it may be that we don't have a fear of, we criticize others for. Maybe to them your fears of whatever maybe just as ridiculous, so until you can have no fear in your own life maybe you need to look at yourself before criticizing others.
So why not throw out your fears and exceed in life and business?
Todd Clark - broker
Kastings & Associates
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Friends and family can sometimes confuse a buyer and try to influence the buyer to get what they think is important. Sounds like in this case, the friend was a true friend. Thanks for the post.
Todd, Great advice and it sounds like you and your client have a really good friend.
Don R.
Nice post. Sounds like you met a great person- and friend. Thank you for sharing.
Fear of failure is something we have to address as it will hold us back. Thanks.
The best thing to do with fear, is to attack it. Many years ago, I examined myself and found that my biggest fear was the telephone. I realized I needed to get over that fear and quickly. My next decision was one of the best I have made in my life...I spent the next 6 months going from one telemarketing job to the next until the phone became my friend. The first 2 months were not easy, but I realized if I was to get over the fear I had to go on the offensive.
Today, the first phone call every day is always the hardest. I don't know why, but old habits just seem to never want to die. So...every morning, I pick up the phone and make that first phone call, and the rest of the day just goes so much better.
TC,
Great post! The biggest fear we need to overcome is fear of failure...failure is built into our humanness...e.g., baseballers who fail 2 out of 3 times are super star hitters...no one is perfect...our worth doesn't come from success, it comes from the fact that we exist!!! What Hollywood Star has not had some 'flops'...great presidents have lost 'local elections'...If there's a God, when I fail He will pick me up...and guess what, I can learn a lot from my failures!!! Thanks, Fran
F E A R is an interesting problem people have. Was this from TR?
Have a good day partner
Wonderful Post- Todd.
The best we can do is acknowledge our fear, accept it and move on.
I agree with you people come into our lives for a reason!